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flutterby posted a new activity comment 4 months, 1 week ago
In reply to: jmh posted an update yesterday was the third anniversary of my sister’s death. i really appreciated the messages people here sent me. i haven’t responded yet but i did appreciate them a lot. the only other person […] ViewFeel exactly the same, Judy. Not one person has ever spoken about it on my sister’s anniversaries or birthdays…or ever. i’ve never done anything to ’commemorate’ because i’m not sure what to do, alone, without a grave.
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flutterby replied to the forum topic TIME in the group
Sibling Grief 4 months, 1 week agoDitto. i don’t want to face the idea of living more of my life without her than with her…
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flutterby posted an update in the group
Sibling Grief 5 months agoStill – little things still get to me, somehow i can’t let go. Spent the day with a friend and her sister yesterday. They are ‘complete’ as opposed to me and mine, if you know what i mean. To make matter worse, they kept talking about how they are sisters and how close they are and all i can think is what the hell did i do wrong? Why is mine…[Read more]
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flutterby replied to the forum topic ….things we don’t want to know but have to learn in the group
Sibling Grief 5 months, 1 week agoThings we don’t want to know:
That your friends may not be who you thought they were,
That ‘it will never happen to me’ happens to everyone just in a different costume.
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flutterby posted a new activity comment: 6 months, 3 weeks ago
In reply to: Claire posted an update in the group Sibling Grief : Hello I have not posted on the site for a long time. I guess I have been ’coping’ OK for a while. At Christmas it will be 4 years since my little sister died […] Viewi lost my ’healthy’ 25 yr old sister also 4 yrs ago. i think the grief has always been my ’guilty’ secret, or no one has bothered to notice. i also feel lost and unloved without her, i understand where you are coming from…
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flutterby posted a new activity comment: 7 months ago
In reply to: Nikki posted an update: I was talking to a friend today and she asked me why I sounded so flat/down. I mentioned it may have something to do with my brother. She replied, ’Oh I have not though to ask you about […] Viewi think you’re right that maybe if you haven’t been through a loss yourself that you might not think to realise that it would affect you for the rest of your life.
However, i also think that it’s normal that our loss isn’t on our friends’ minds as it is on ours, just as their problems won’t play on our minds as much as theirs. Then there’s…[Read more] -
flutterby posted an update: 8 months, 3 weeks ago
dreamt of my sister’s ashes. horrific.
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Dear flutterby,
I know dreams can be absolutely horrible. My heart and prayers are with you. If you want, let me know when your Sister passed away. I understand all too well that you only wrote what you did.
God bless,
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That sounds pretty horrific – I’m sorry. I hope you have had some more consoling dreams also.
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Thanks for the Avatar – it looks dark but is very expressive; like someone curled up in pain and also turning away from others. How are you doing?
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Flutterby, I’ve been in your shoes. Hurts like hell. I am and have been for sometime able to talk about Emily dying and how she died. Emily was 16 when she died and I was 10. I am now 29 with two boys and I am a fire fighter EMT. I do my best to help others. I have learned thru the years to deal with death but it does still hurt that I lost my…[Read more]