Adult Sibling Grief Community

Yes Holly, I felt all those things and still do but not as intense. It’s been 2 1/2 years for me. It really takes over your whole soul. Be patient with yourself as best as you can. It is normal to feel this way after a sudden loss such as yours. Therapy and support groups who specialize in sudden death (I am in a homicide only group) helps…[Read more]

I am sorry you lost your sister so suddenly. You are not alone in your thoughts and feelings. I feel them too still even after almost 2 1/2 years. I am able to compartmentalize my grief when I am with others socially now. I still thinnk about my sister all the time but can handle social situations better now. That took a very long time. It’s…[Read more]

This quote really says it all. Protecting your sanity. Because I feel I would go insane if my wound was not protected by something. How else can I be functioning after this tragedy? Everyone thinks “she’s doing better because they may see me out and about more after 2/12 years, but I am protecting myself so that I can function for my…[Read more]

These thoughts consume me. I don’t know how I am functioning with these thoughts in my head. I try to live in the moment but the they always return. We have to learn to live with these thoughts eventhough we are brought to our knees in sorrow by them. A big struggle that I never thought our family would have to deal with. The depression is…[Read more]

Hi Jessica. Your post broke my heart. You think you will have your sibling with you the longest in your life. Cherish that letter. What a gift to have that. I hope you find some comfort and understanding here. Just wanted to let you know I am sorry your going through this. Take care of yourself.

Oh Shirley when I read your post it made me so sad someone else in this world has gone through and always will go through this grief. I am so sorry your mother was taken from your life. . It’s such a complicated grief. My sister has 3 beautiful girls now teens and a son 10. I wonder how they will handle this in their lives. Like you said it…[Read more]

I am so sorry Judy. Reading about your little nephew and the connection his birth has to your sister’s death is truly heartbreaking and like you said hard to get your head around. My sister’s death was extremely tragic and 2 anniversaries have passed I am feeling like I would rather celebrate her birthday and comemmorate her life on that day. …[Read more]

Susan, I am so sorry. My sister was murdered 2 years ago by her husband of 20 years. My only sibling. I hope you have a good support system to help you on this very difficult journey. I go to a support group and therapist specifically for homicide bereavement. Has helped me to try to cope with this tragedy and function through this new life…[Read more]

I am so sorry about your beloved dog. She was always there for you unconditionally in joy and sorrow. My dog also has helped me tremendously through my grief so I know what a great support they are.

This grief is so painful and sad to talk about. I too try to spare others and put the face on and be strong for family especially my sister’s children. It is exhausting to have to do this and coping with grief is a lot of work. I am sorry you are going through this as a newlywed. How hard that must be! It is not fair! I don’t know about…[Read more]